Everyone’s path will be different, but no matter what, having a picture of what high self-esteem looks like, and how it can play out in relationships, is helpful and can help reveal the areas you may need to work on.Having high self-esteem doesn’t guarantee a happy relationship, but it does equip you with the skills to identify what you want and realize you deserve to get it, and the strength to walk away if something falls short.
People with high self-esteem believe they are worthy of love and don’t question how someone feels about them.
They know that they are good, competent, and lovable and trust that the right person for them will see this.
They don’t attach their worth to what a guy thinks and, as a result, don’t feel stressed and anxious when a guy’s feelings are unclear.
Instead, they assume he likes them and are able to be present in the relationship and enjoy it without being weighed down by fears and doubts. Confident people realize if a relationship falls apart it’s because it wasn’t right, not because they did something wrong.
Healthy self-esteem is a prerequisite for healthy relationships.
From my personal experiences, and my years spent writing about relationships, I’ve learned that poor self-esteem is the number one cause of unhealthy relationships, as well as the top relationship killer.
Self-esteem isn’t an essential need like food or water, but it’s a supplement that can either dramatically improve your life, or keep you stunted and unfulfilled.
The fact is, you can only let in as much love from the outside as you feel on the inside.
If you don’t feel good about yourself, you will never truly believe that someone else can love you and you will constantly be on the lookout for the other shoe to drop, for the guy you care about to leave, thus validating the fact that you are unworthy of love.