Unfortunately, your partner may be very comfortable with what he’s already offering so may think the new deal costs more than he wants to pay.Better have a back-up plan if you’re going to play this one out. Has he shown you any indication that he wants to spend more time with you? Is he the kind of person who, when asked to do something he hasn’t already offered, is open to renegotiating?
Ask yourself the below 5 questions There are three reasons to prioritize any relationship commitment. That works well when the giving is appreciated and the giver is not using giving to manipulate or control, or feeling martyred in the process.
The second is the fairness and comfort of reciprocity. The third is synergy, the greatest gift of a naturally good relationship.
Intimate synergy is an emotional alchemy that makes more than the sum of the parts.
In great relationships, those three reasons are always in flux but also in balance.
Both partners give, both exchange, and both contribute to the healing moments that synergy creates.
These contracts should ideally be explored and agreed upon early on in any relationship.
The sadness is that most people, more often women, accommodate, adjust, and adapt to what they think the other person wants and will keep coming back for, and withhold their true needs.
They are fearful that being authentic in what they will ultimately need and want might alienate the other.
As the relationship progresses, those false accommodations are bound to eventually emerge with less-than-successful results.
Partners who think they are just fine the way they have been are not likely to respond well to finding they are no longer adequate.
If you’ve not felt comfortable being up front when your current relationship began and now find that you need more, there are five questions you need to ask yourself before you approach your partner to change the rules.