I’ve printed these two letters back to back because… And yes, everyone reading this is probably older than 19.
So first, Hely, please read this article, which is an excerpt from Why You’re Still Single entitled: Tip Your Baggage Handler (Do You Keep Falling For Jerks? But in brief, I will tell you this: If a guy isn’t treating you the way you want to be treated, leave him. If a guy says he cares about you, but doesn’t back it up with his actions, leave him. If a guy wants you to change for him in a fundamental way that is uncomfortable to you, leave him. Which brings us to the meat of your question: should you tell him right up front that you’re a virgin? We went out a couple of times and never slept together, which was probably for the best.
So what can we learn from these stories of innocence and sexlessness?
Well, for one, we learn that it can be extremely easy to take advantage of a virgin.
All I had to do is act like I cared for a couple more dates and I could have de-virginized two women.
I am sure that no one expects this of me 🙂 How do I address this issue when I meet someone “quality”?
As a man, would you expect to learn what you’re “dealing with” or would you rather not be freaked out in advance and learn it in the process? I’m nineteen years old, I know there is a problem with me because I can’t seem to have a long-term relationship with a guy.
The longest of my relationships lasted about three months.
I’ve dated a lot, since I never find what I’m looking for, and I always end up giving up on them or if I get rejected I feel like I’m not good enough.
It seems like all the “normal” guys are already taken. Also, I think I’m always attracted to the same type of men (jerks).